Saturday, January 9, 2010

Turn That (Negativity) Bus Around

Wow.  I think this is the longest I've gone between posts since I started blogging. 

"So where the heck have you been?" you wanna know.

I've been trying to find a creative or witty way to explain the many ways that the last few weeks of the decade sucked. 

I'm stumped.  Both parents in the hospital (two long stories), the return of "asthma boy," broken well pump, finding out that said piece of crap is under my newly landscaped walkway, family business struggles, holiday drama, money woes, step-son going to Afghanistan, bad hair, yada yada yada.   

Calgon, take me away.

Normally I'm not one to make New Year's resolutions.  Yet, it was New Year's Eve when I came to the realization that I was depressed.  And that nothing happening around me was going to change in the very near future... including the fact that the only reason my toilets flush is because we have a hose (seen in pic) running from my in-law's house next door.

(Looking at the attached pic now, I'm actually laughing at myself.  I had thrown a Santa hat on my autumn scarecrow instead of actually taking it down and/or putting up more appropriate decorations.  Apparently I was a little overwhelmed!)

So for the past couple of weeks my focus has been to (once again) shift my focus from letting everything on the outside control how I feel on the inside... to the reverse.  I've made the conscious choice to shift my internal lens from seeing all the negativity, to projecting positivity.

I am officially walking away from the slippery slope.  Okay, so it's more like turning a bus around but you get the idea.

This is my "three step process" for getting that bus of negativity to drive the other way:

1. Internal --> transform thoughts, feelings, words, feeding only positive energy

2. External --> engage in healthy, healing actions

3. Support --> ask for help, whether it's feedback, physical assistance, accountability or just the time and space for #1 & 2 to be possible

I'm thinking of changing the caption on my blog header to "Practicing what you preach can be a real biotch."  The truth is that sometimes I just have to write about this stuff so I remember to do it.

Life balance isn't about juggling and controlling everything in your world. 

It's about balancing your internal well-being so that you can handle anything which gets thrown at you.

Be well and MOVE THAT BUS!

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28 comments:

Vivienne said...

You know what? The fact you stood up and decided to CHANGE something alone already shows that you're strong! :) There's no need to wish you good luck with that resolution because you'll achieve your goals anyway :)
Happy SITS sharefest!

Montessori Moments said...

Thanks for being honest SITSta!
I sure hope things get better for you very soon! Way too go for "looking on the bright side"

Chanda the Eco-Cheap Mom said...

Sorry your year ended in such a crazy mess. Why is it that when it rains, it pours?! Arg! I think putting the Santa hat on the scarecrow was perfect. My kind of decorating! Every holiday it could be something different. Hang eggs from him for Easter, add a beach ball for summer, a flag for the 4th...the scarecrow for all seasons!

I hope your 2010 is the best!

k80 @ onegirlsjourney said...

Stopping by from SITS! Great post! Your title caught me b/c that was my only New Year's Resolution - to get rid of my negative mentality and 'stinkin' thinkin'! You are in good company! :)

sit10 said...

Nice summary - I may FB-quote you. welcome back, such as it is. I know your problems are not solved, and you may still be feeling bleak, but let's "start that bus!" I guess Bus=Makeover is becoming a standard metaphor.
Looking forward to seeing you soon. if our meet-up does not fit in, I hope you will please let me know.

corvedacosta said...

We all have our struggles but I do hope you will get through yours very soon. I agree with your point about Support (3) - that is key in everything.

I hope the new year will bring you peace and happiness.

You're great!

Charlene said...

Thanks everyone! Y'all ROCK!

(Absolutely sit10 we will "do lunch"... getting together with friends is part of #3 afterall!!)

Serenityville said...

Awesome, awesome post. I love it!!! Great new blog post title if you're at all serious! And I love your share that sometimes we have to write it out to remind ourselves. I am really digging your vibe - my shift in consciousness is along these lines with the main focus being self-care. Best wishes to you!!! (p.s. the santa hat-scarecrow is GREAT - don't berate!)

The Guy's Perspective said...

"The truth is that sometimes I just have to write about this stuff so I remember to do it."

This really speaks to me. People often ask my opinion on relationships and life in general. And I think I give pretty thoughtful input or advice. But I laugh to myself thinking, "I can't even do that myself!!" And that certainly is true.

So yes, writing it down or saying it out loud is often a good first step for me to actually apply it to my own life.

Welcome back!

Sarah said...

that's a lot to handle. but if anyone can handle that it will be you. here's something to cheer you up: i've nominated you to the 2010 web bloggie award!

Armando said...

Hi most recently I posted something on my blog about an Angel and that Angel was you.
I feel you more than ever, on your thoughts. And somehow i wish I can extend you my hand to you. You extend your's to me so hang in there, don't give up, because on my eyes. You're not just a good example of serenity, good positive attitude and spirit. Also, I meant to give you a call, but I wasn't sure if that would be okay with you to extend our gratitude because my wife and I are in deep, deep appreciation of your gold heart and soul. This is a wonderful post and hope you have the chance to stop by and read that post about that Angel that is you.
Wish you the best of luck in everything that comes to you sincerely. yours always, Armando.

Melanie said...

Life often throws a curve ball...and I'm glad you're taking it all in stride.

Visiting from MBC and looking forward to reading more of your posts. :)

~Shelley~ said...

We sound so much alike :) I, too, have been having a rough time lately, esp. around the holidays, and now my hubby is in Turkey for 3 weeks, leaving me with 3 kids. I've felt overwhelmed. I've found it comforting talking to friends, and just trying to laugh and smile :) <--- See!

Thanks for visiting my blog! Hope you enjoy all the 'freebies'! You have a wonderful blog and I'm now following you! I can't wait to read more!

~Shelley

Angelia said...

Great goals. Good things to focus on. I think putting words into action is the hardest thing to do. :-)

Charlene said...

Serentyville - likewise re: vibe. Thanks!

Guy - It's definitely comforting for me to know that someone else can relate to this. (And of course your blog is one of my faves!)

Sarah - Thanks for the nomination! Definitely makes me smile - what a sweetie you are!

Armando -- There was just something about your request for help which resonated with me as so pure... and yes, almost as if you needed a angel (or two or ten!) I'm so glad it was helpful in some way. No further thanks needed. The universe is an abundant place!

Melanie, Shelley, Angelia -- Thanks so much for visiting and your kind words. Much appreciated!

webb said...

Look at all the virtual hugs you've got - and here's one more.

Not that ANY of your problems are small, but you absolutely know that the holidays magnify the stress of even the smallest thing that goes wrong - to say nothing of the list of significant things you have going on.

Positive self-talk can certainly start the transformation. You - and scarecrow man - rock.

Debbie said...

You are so right about the practicing what we preach part! Just came by from SITS and I hope 2010 treats you better:)

Janine said...

I really hope you have a much better 2010! You seem like you're on the right track already :)

Gayle Jackson said...

Great blog post! SITS sent me and I'm so happy they did! 2010 will be a great year for us all...our glasses are half full this year and ready for filling.
Gayle
www.kafkassister.blogspot.com

nothingprofound said...

Wow, you really had a lot of crap thrown at you all at once. I admire your determination not to let it overwhelm you. It sounds like you've already begun to detach yourself from the chaos outside by allowing yourself a little distance. Patience and a sense of humor certainly help a lot.

Paige said...

What a great post! I too need to practice what I preach better this year. Just stopping by from SITS to say Hello. Hope you have a great week!

AJ said...

Awesome post and practical! Stopping by from SITS.
Hope your week is going better!

Sarah said...

I hope things get better! You always have a positive way of looking at things, though. So, I have an award for you over at my blog!!
xox
www.thestrollerballet.com

Quasi Serendipita said...

Great post! I hope you have a good week. Visiting from SITS :)

foxy said...

Sometimes, a written plan is the only thing that can help me turn around. Something about being able to actually see it written on paper... it makes it real and necessary.

I'm sure it will get better. It has to, right? That's kind of how I feel right now.

Anonymous said...

Bad karma comes in 3's. I counted 9 on your list. As long as the list remains divisable by 3, you are all done! Keep on keepin' on.
tvachon@lycos.com

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

love the positivity...stopping by from SITS!!!

samsstuff said...

No need for explanations, I agree. Actually, most of last year & then some, sucked. We made it through, though. You have some great, helpful thoughts on "life balance" here. Here's to a better new year!

Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

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