I remember when I first thought about the idea of blogging. My sister and some of my friends were already "bloggers." They were cool. I was jealous. For a long time, I was still just "thinking about it." Waiting for the right time. Or more time. Something.
Then click. One letter typed on my little laptop. One word; one sentence; one post. No time at all.
Like so many other things in our lives, starting was the hardest part. And yet, so easy. One click.
So for anyone lurking out there who has been thinking about blogging and wanting to do it I say, "Go for it!" You know who you are. Really, what are you waiting for? We're not getting any younger here people.
To commemorate my first blogoversary, I had summarized some key messages from my blogtabulous first year. Charlton Heston style. Minus the beard.
Two more years later, I can think of a couple more but these all still really resonate with me. And, given the need to actually practice what I preach, balance this week requires an encore presentation. I reserve the right to addendum.
THE BALANCE BEAM'S
TEN COMMANDMENTS OF LIFE BALANCE
1. Thou shalt make myself a priority. Life balance is about having the mental, emotional and physical strength to be able to do it all. It's not about doing everything in just the right way. It's about being strong enough to handle anything. True life balance is internal.
2. Thou shalt step outside the comfort zone. Growth almost always involves the unknown. Go for it. Parents, we need to let our kids step outside their (and our) comfort zones too. Not easy, I know.
3. Thou shalt put out what I would like to get back. Energy attracts like energy. If we want health, happiness and prosperity then these things must be reflected in our thoughts, words and actions. If we obsess over "sick, sad and broke" we get more of that. Along the same lines, remember the saying, "If you meet more than two jerks in one day, chances are pretty good you're one of them."
4. Thou shalt laugh. I hope this one is self-explanatory. Laughter really is the best medicine.
5. Thou shalt meditate and pray. Regardless of individual spiritual beliefs, we all need time to reflect and be at a purposeful place of peace and gratitude. When people ask me the #1 thing which keeps me sane in the face of everything I must handle in a given day, this is it. And no, "Meditation" is not a new varietal of wine.
6. Thou shalt not treat every situation as "life and death." Some of us are facing very serious challenges, I know. Yet most of the things we stress and obsess about are not a matter of life or death. We give transient issues way more power than they deserve. Being a sensitive person myself, "Is this life or death?" is a litmus question I ask myself early and often.
7. Thou shalt control only that over which I have control. This one should be easy but is just so damn hard for some reason. Here's a quick tip: If it's another person, place or thing - we don't have any real control. I know, I know. As a recovering control freak myself, this was hard news to me too.
8. Thou shalt find gain in change. The automatic human response to change is to perceive loss. Keep this in mind when the crazy buttons start going off during any kind of transition. It may be less about the actual event and more of a gut reaction. Talk it out or write it down. What are you afraid of losing? Is that a justified fear? What are you gaining? Do those benefits outweigh the loss or fear?
9. Thou shalt deal with the crap. Commandments and crap don't usually go together but I've got to keep it real. That's just how I roll. We all have things we don't want to think about, do, and face. Maybe it's debt, fat, drama, projects, messes, etc... Each person has their own "big turds." Worse, these things have a way of getting bigger and stinkier without attention. Bite the bullet and face the big turds. Oh, it will suck in the short-term but you know it will be a HUGE relief afterwards.
10. Thou shalt believe in myself. Increased confidence brings increased capacity. Personally, I spent almost half my life believing that I wasn't good enough or that I was just really weird. Old paradigms take work to shift. The bottom line is that the love comes from the inside out, not the outside in. I know it's corny but you must love and believe in yourself. Let other people think what they want. (Remember the whole "can't control people, places and things" bit?)
So now I know that I'm weird. But, I also believe that weird is the new beautiful.
PS: The photo included in this post is one I took from my kitchen window. One of my faves!