Wednesday, August 26, 2009


My hope is that my writing comes across as positive and helpful.   Naturally I love the wonderful feedback y'all have been so generous to give. (Thank you!)
Yet, my intention is definitely not to say, "Look at me! My life is so perfect.  If you do what I do, your life will be perfect too."  
Of course I have bad days.  Crap to deal with.  Loss.  Change. Uncertainty. Failure. 

I know I don't share too much about those things on these pages.  Not because I don't want you to know.  I'm not shy or embarrassed.  Heck, I've certainly given you enough overshare by now it's clear I suffer from a serious lack of filter on even the most personal of topics. (Then again, I did hold off on posting that one Quantum Wellness Cleanse update which I had affectionately titled, "Pull My Finger.")

It's just that I truly believe that documenting and complaining at length about illness, strife, bad luck etc only further extends the life of those negative situations.  I'm reluctant to make some of the more recent crappy moments immortal in written word.  To give them any more energy than is necessary; more power.  Maybe it's something I need to get over?  Maybe I'd be more help to people if I shared more of the bad stuff?  You tell me...

As just one example, my husband and I could never have predicted the financial nightmares of the past two years or so.  My "in real life" friends have seriously questioned how it's possible that we are not highly medicated (or divorced) at this point, given all we've been through. I don't need to go into detail to know that many of you can relate.

So yes, I believe in the power of positive thought and all that. But I also know that sometimes "stuff happens."  There are just some things we can't control. 

The Serenity Prayer of my Al-Anon days comes to mind:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Forty-one years of life experiences (some you've read about here and some I have not yet shared) have given me the wisdom and confidence to know that I can change my view of the world, even when I can't change my world. 

Most of the time, it's actually very simple:  External circumstances do not define me.  I choose. 

Happiness, gratitude, hope. 

Inside out.  Not outside in.
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therealbobthought said...

now that is a good choice

Johnz said...

grreat writing. I forgot what I wanted to say.
I'm not sure if I want to change my view of this world, if you know what I think of it. I know I cant, nor do I want to. I know I must just try and not think about it. That way I can think about easier things, like how I can help some others cope with living here. I twice used "coloneX" or something. you didnt need to pull my finger, *stuff happened* :D
Hope you keep smiling :D
ps , open a window ,)

Art Ist said...

Very nice post! It's a good reminder that sometimes we just need to get over it and get on with it!

I'm following ... very nice blog!

Art Ist

Mary Ann Cicala said...

Call me an accidental optimist, but I appreciate that you focus on your positive experiences and the positive spin to any challenging experiences you may have....and I think this quote from Louise Hay is an especially appropriate response to this post, "The thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives."

Looking For Normal said...

I am working very hard to be like you and as I get older it gets easier. I want to only look at the positive and although my blog can be depressing I, for myself, felt that writing it down would help me. Since I had tried everything else. Its hard, uncomforable and brings back allot of bad memories, but this is my therapy for now. I'm actually a very, funny, happy person, with a bit of a temper. lol. but writing it down is helping me allot and it was worth it the day a husband wrote and thanked me for letting him know how his wife was feeling. Felt good. sorry so long. I love your blog.

LookingForNormal said...

i was going to write a comment and looked up and i already did. lol. im going to follow you, please follow me so that i can read your blog and find it easier. I'm kinda crazy. lol. have to make things simple for me. little steps ya know.

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