In my current day-to-day, this magical thing called life balance can be more like "extreme juggling" vs. navigating the balance beam as my blog title suggests. In any case, it's a circus for sure!
So many balls going up, down and around at any given time. Kids, husband, friends, house, the budget, the commute, the corporate job, holidays and more. Plus of course, the stuff I know I need to do in order to take care of myself and stay sane. (P90X fits in there somewhere, though people have questioned my sanity regarding this particular undertaking.)
My hope is you're learning some of my "techniques" in the course of reading my blog. If nothing else, feel free to laugh at me as well as with me. Laughter is the best medicine afterall.
I'd like to say it comes naturally. That my life feels like one of those "easy, breezy" commercials on TV. Well, sometimes it really does, even when by all accounts, it shouldn't. Other times (recently), well... not so much.
I don't want my life to be about doing. I want it to be about being. I want to feel the experience of life in a completely fulfilling, blissful way.
But let's face it, someone still has to wash the underwear and do all the other crap which has to get done.
Okay, so I want to have my cake and eat it too. (I'm tempted to make a clean undies v. cake analogy but that could easily go to a really weird place.)
All that said, as I go through the multi-tasking extravaganza which is my life, a big goal for me is to pay attention. As Rhonda Byrne says in her book The Secret, I need to "remember to remember."
Inherent in this task is being fully aware and present in the moment; a related pearl of wisdom which I learned from Eckhart Tolle .
Focus on being in the "now." One cannot become enlightened whilst unconscious.
A few months ago I started keeping a log of all the times I caught myself NOT being in the moment. Yikes. I should have bought a bigger notebook. Talk about needing to "remember to remember."
Here are just a few examples to which I'm praying you can relate:
MONDAY: Dropped kids off at school; didn't realise I was still listening to "Kids Place Live" on XMRadio until 28 minutes later when I caught myself singing along to "Crazy ABC's" by the Barenaked Ladies. I do love that song and it wouldn't be so bad except that I went almost a full half hour with zero awareness that the radio was even ON.
TUESDAY: How did I get this HUGE bruise on my leg? No idea. I bet it hurt. Humpf. (Note: Bruise amnesia is a disturbingly recurring theme.)
WEDNESDAY: Hungry. Opened package to my Carrot Cake Clif Bar...took a bite. Moments later looked down. Clif bar gone. Did I eat it? Holy crap, I don't even remember chewing. Need to revisit goal of "mindful eating." Still hungry.
THURSDAY: "Mommy. Mommy. Mommy. Mommy. Mommy. Mommy." Oh wait, that's me.
FRIDAY: Walked into kitchen. Completely forgot why. Walked back into bedroom. Scissors. I needed scissors. Walked back to kitchen. Noticed dirty dish towel. Brought it back to bedroom. Forgot the damn scissors.
Although slightly embarrassing, this excercise helps me to better understand what I need to focus on. Namely, what is happening.... right.... now. Not only my thoughts and feelings, but everything around me.
Like I always say, it's a journey. Thank you again for joining me on my quest to make this circus feel like a walk along a beautiful garden path.
Here's to paying attention, remembering to remember and being in the moment.
And eating cake. And clean undies.