Saturday, January 1, 2011

Law of Attraction

Not too long ago, I asked my amazing young daughter Miss M. what she thought was the key to being truly happy.

She shrugged and replied simply, "You just gotta focus on the good stuff and not the bad stuff."

Imagine that! Top selling books, critically acclaimed experts, numerous podcasts and more to describe the Law of Attraction, easily summarized in the words of a nine year old girl.

Most people have at least heard of "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. In earlier posts I mentioned Shakti Gawain who wrote about the same principles two decades ago with "Creative Visualization" (my personal favorite) and other books since then.

Although Miss M. actually said it more succinctly, this is the simple explanation I usually use:

Energy attracts like energy. Your thoughts, feelings and actions are energy. Therefore, you attract stuff into your life which is consistent with what you think, feel and do.

One saying which describes the concept quite well is, "If you meet more than two jerks in one day, chances are pretty good that you're one of them."

Oh come on now - you must know someone who just constantly complains about how rude everyone is to them, how things always seem to go wrong, how somehow life always manages to screw them in one way or another. They've spent so much energy bitching... that yeah, life is being a bitch right back.

Good luck not snickering the next time you talk to this person and start focusing on everything they say. (OMG - they are SO doing what Charlene said in her blog! It's true!!)

Yet, so as not to sound too judgmental... the reality is we ALL have our moments.  I certainly do. It may be a particular commute or a temporary rut or really bad PMS. It helps me to be more aware by exploring these moments from mirror view. If I suddenly start to notice a string of bad luck or multiple irritations or whatever, I stop and think. "What have I been doing (or feeling/thinking) to create the negative energy which could possibly be attracting this crap?"

Today for example, I'll admit I'm feeling quite under the weather. I know that "germs happen" and am on board with the miracles of modern medicine. However, suddenly I'm aware of how many times in the past week I've said things like, "I'm SO tired." "Ugh, my head hurts." "I really don't want to be in the office right now."

So now I am more tired, my head hurts a LOT and I'm not in the office (because I'm sick.)

Before I even started to have any "symptoms" I was feeling worried and told several people, "Both my kids have been so sick... I hope I don't get sick. I really can't be sick right now."

The critics would say, "Well no duh - you got the sick germs from your kids. That's why you got sick." But trust me, I travel on airplanes and sleep in hotels where there are lots more icky, germy people spreading their slimy mucus and stuff all over items I end up touching. The only difference is I may not know it when I touch the "ick" of strangers. At least with my kids, I know to wash my hands after they sneeze on me or wipe their nose on my sleeve.

Then again -- I bet people who say, "I always get sick when I travel" actually do get sick when they travel.

The point is, energy only knows the object of what you put out there. So when I say, "I don't want to get sick," the law of attraction provides back the energy of sick. Sick. Sick. Sick.

Think of the drive-up window at your local pitstop as an example. My husband loves Wendy's cheeseburgers. He hates onions. (He also hates pepper and garlic; you'd never know he was Italian.) Literally every time he goes to the Wendy's drive-up, he says, "I'd like a cheeseburger with NO onions." 9 out of 10 times he gets a cheeseburger WITH onions. Often EXTRA onions.

In my husband's case the law of attraction may actually be in action since he is now pretty convinced that he will always get onions. It's a fast food conspiracy.

But really, I'm just using the drive-up window as a metaphor.

Another example is a dear friend who used to order her coffee this way: "I'd like a medium hazelnut hot coffee with milk - NO sugar."

You can see where this going right? Requested that way, she consistently received *...wait for it, wait for it...* yes, SUGAR in her coffee. And loads of it since the order taker heard the emphasis on "sugar" but not the word "no."

Now she orders it this way, "I'd like a medium hazelnut hot coffee, just milk." TAHDAH!

So there you go. That's my (actually Miss M's) sage advice for the day. Be aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions -- including your words. Put your energy into what you WANT.

Focus on the good stuff.

Happy New Year!
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Alannah said...

I always get cheese on my burgers. And I don't want it! I think you have something here.

Gena said...

LOVE this post! I give it a FIVE STAR!! You're my new mentor! :-D!!

Ros said...

Makes sense! ;) said...

She's a wise little girl with an even wiser mom ;) Like does attract like. I'm completely with you on that.

Twincerely,Olga said...

stopping by from SITs! great blog!!! Have a wonderful day!

kys said...

Focus on the good stuff. What a smart one!

plainolebob said...

Chrlene, I don't remember this post, but it is a really good one

BJ_Mama said...

What a GREAT post! I can't tell you how many times just a shift in focus has change my WHOLE DAY!
Your Sista

Karen, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry" said...

I don't know about the energy stuff, but I do know that we are gold in the Bible in Colossians 3:2 to "Set our affection on things above, not on things on the earth." and in Philippians 4:8 to think on things that are true, honest, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praiseworthy.

I know when I'm feeling down or something puts me in a bad mood, like missing my bus yesterday, I don't let that fester and immediately give thanks for something or sing a song in my head. It works! The mind is a powerful thing!

We can't control what happens in our lives, but we can control our reaction to it.

Stopping by from SITS.

The Toll House Cookie said...

I think the key to successful business people is exactly that. Energy attracts like energy. This is why Warren Buffet likes hanging around Bill Gates!!! When I was in sales, I saw more success stories come from those who lived like they had it all, knew they'd get it eventually and expected everyone to want to come for the ride. They attracted more people that were also successful and knew what the journey was about. I, on the other hand, knew I was good at my job and knew it thoroughly, but when I attempted to go out and sell....and attempt to be successful, I ended up falling on my face because I didn't believe myself capable of being that successful (if you know what I mean). It's totally about positive energy.

Charlene said...

Thanks for the comments - love the positive energy! :-)

Toll House - you may also appreciate this post...

Elizabeth said...

Hi, Charlene! Welcome to the NE Bloggers. I've added you to the list. If you'd like to receive emails when we do blog carnivals or other silliness, drop me a note.
e_bogardus AT hotmail

Charlene said...

Thanks Elizabeth - silliness is always a good thing, right? :-)


Charlene you have a smart kid there, and I have to agree with The Toll House Cookie, energy attracts like energy. Who would you chose to be around a sadsack or an upbeat person. Great post BTW

Kelly said...

Thought provoking :o) Love the coffee analogy.

Kitty Moore said...

I also have a none year old daughter who is very wise..and much more sensible than me!


Tito Dutta said...

I love this post. 5 stars from my side too.
Thank you.

When did I become my Mom said...

Stopping by from SITS to say hi! :-)

JoeyRes said...

My husband is quick to remind me that if EVERYONE is annoying me, it is most definitely my problem and not the rest of the world. I'm glad he's so smart!

mralong said...

Hi I just wanted to let you know that I have given you an award and you can pick it up at


Charlene said...

Thanks Robyn! My apologies in advance... I think I have three awards which need official "accepting". Might have to get creative this weekend! :-)

Still, very much appreciate the honor! Cheers!

Tina said...

Hi, Charlene. This is good stuff right here. Glad to be here. Tina

Chanda @ The Eco-Cheap Mom said...

Great post and a great way for me to start the day! Positive thoughts, kid's have adjusted so well to the time change!!!! Yep, they are sleeping in extra late. :)

Glad I stopped by from SITS! I'm your newest follower!

Charlene said...

Welcome Tina & Chanda! Thanks so much!!

DrDeb said...

From the mouths of babes -- thanks Charlene!

Dr. Deb

Jason said...

You know, when I first read "The Secret" I was really turned off...mainly because it mainly portrays the Law of Attraction as a wealth building tool.

About a year ago, I came across Wayne Dyer's "The Power of Intention" and it changed my life. He taught me the real meaning of the Law of Attraction, which is cheeseburgers, coffee, and staying healthy on trips....the details of life, as you've described so well.

Thanks for this post. I'll be stopping by regularly from now on.

Doreen Lombardo said...

I hate, hate, hate lemon and I always say, I'll have water, NO LEMON, and sure enough, I get a darn lemon. So, what should I say, JUST WATER PLEASE! I'm going to try it.

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