Not too long ago, I asked my amazing young daughter Miss M. what she thought was the key to being truly happy.
She shrugged and replied simply, "You just gotta focus on the good stuff and not the bad stuff."
Imagine that! Top selling books, critically acclaimed experts, numerous podcasts and more to describe the Law of Attraction, easily summarized in the words of a nine year old girl.
Most people have at least heard of "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. In earlier posts I mentioned Shakti Gawain who wrote about the same principles two decades ago with "Creative Visualization" (my personal favorite) and other books since then.
Although Miss M. actually said it more succinctly, this is the simple explanation I usually use:
Energy attracts like energy. Your thoughts, feelings and actions are energy. Therefore, you attract stuff into your life which is consistent with what you think, feel and do.
One saying which describes the concept quite well is, "If you meet more than two jerks in one day, chances are pretty good that you're one of them."
Oh come on now - you must know someone who just constantly complains about how rude everyone is to them, how things always seem to go wrong, how somehow life always manages to screw them in one way or another. They've spent so much energy bitching... that yeah, life is being a bitch right back.
Good luck not snickering the next time you talk to this person and start focusing on everything they say. (OMG - they are SO doing what Charlene said in her blog! It's true!!)
Yet, so as not to sound too judgmental... the reality is we ALL have our moments. I certainly do. It may be a particular commute or a temporary rut or really bad PMS. It helps me to be more aware by exploring these moments from mirror view. If I suddenly start to notice a string of bad luck or multiple irritations or whatever, I stop and think. "What have I been doing (or feeling/thinking) to create the negative energy which could possibly be attracting this crap?"
Today for example, I'll admit I'm feeling quite under the weather. I know that "germs happen" and am on board with the miracles of modern medicine. However, suddenly I'm aware of how many times in the past week I've said things like, "I'm SO tired." "Ugh, my head hurts." "I really don't want to be in the office right now."
So now I am more tired, my head hurts a LOT and I'm not in the office (because I'm sick.)
Before I even started to have any "symptoms" I was feeling worried and told several people, "Both my kids have been so sick... I hope I don't get sick. I really can't be sick right now."
The critics would say, "Well no duh - you got the sick germs from your kids. That's why you got sick." But trust me, I travel on airplanes and sleep in hotels where there are lots more icky, germy people spreading their slimy mucus and stuff all over items I end up touching. The only difference is I may not know it when I touch the "ick" of strangers. At least with my kids, I know to wash my hands after they sneeze on me or wipe their nose on my sleeve.
Then again -- I bet people who say, "I always get sick when I travel" actually do get sick when they travel.
The point is, energy only knows the object of what you put out there. So when I say, "I don't want to get sick," the law of attraction provides back the energy of sick. Sick. Sick. Sick.
Think of the drive-up window at your local pitstop as an example. My husband loves Wendy's cheeseburgers. He hates onions. (He also hates pepper and garlic; you'd never know he was Italian.) Literally every time he goes to the Wendy's drive-up, he says, "I'd like a cheeseburger with NO onions." 9 out of 10 times he gets a cheeseburger WITH onions. Often EXTRA onions.
In my husband's case the law of attraction may actually be in action since he is now pretty convinced that he will always get onions. It's a fast food conspiracy.
But really, I'm just using the drive-up window as a metaphor.
Another example is a dear friend who used to order her coffee this way: "I'd like a medium hazelnut hot coffee with milk - NO sugar."
You can see where this going right? Requested that way, she consistently received *...wait for it, wait for it...* yes, SUGAR in her coffee. And loads of it since the order taker heard the emphasis on "sugar" but not the word "no."
Now she orders it this way, "I'd like a medium hazelnut hot coffee, just milk." TAHDAH!
So there you go. That's my (actually Miss M's) sage advice for the day. Be aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions -- including your words. Put your energy into what you WANT.
Focus on the good stuff.
Happy New Year!