Wednesday, June 12, 2013

'Til Death Do Us Part

Today marks the fourteenth anniversary of my marriage to "Big. D."   (Cue the balloons, confetti, and champagne!)

As has become the tradition, I will again overshare the romantic story of how we got engaged and then married just a few days later on a tropical island:

It was 1999 and I was pregnant with our daughter. It was very much a planned pregnancy with the “out of wedlock” piece planned as well.  Shocking, I know.  I was once introduced as, “our son’s girlfriend who is pregnant with his child and whether or not they will get married nobody knows.”

Still, given both our previous experiences with the official marriage thing, we figured it was better to leave well enough alone. We actually liked each other. Why take unnecessary chances?

Instead, we planned a romantic St. Maarten getaway in June to celebrate the upcoming birth of our baby and enjoy some time alone together.  

A few days into the vacation, Rob and I went on a beautiful sunset cruise. Luckily I did not have issues with nausea on the catamaran as we sailed along.  Puking may have ruined the romantic moment. We were joined by four or five newly married couples, all aglow and basking in their “til death do us part”-ness.

Rob turned to me and said, “It feels kinda weird being surrounded by all these newlyweds and we’re not.”

I shrugged casually. (“Cool with me. Whatever.”)

He continued somewhat hesitantly, “Well, what... would you do... if I asked you... to marry me?”

I replied maybe too sarcastically, “Well, duh… I’m carrying your child so you’re stuck with me anyway.”

He held up his hand. On his pinky finger was a round diamond solitaire ring, “Well, will you? Marry me, that is?”

Okay – stop scene for a second.

Normally, this is where the woman says breathlessly, “Of course I will!” They hug and kiss. Everyone around them claps and happily cries "awwwwww!" The sun sets as they sail off into the horizon. Just two happy silhouettes starting their happy little lives together.

In my story, (well, what really happened), I responded to his proposal by laughing hysterically. Then, I punched him on the arm and said sardonically, “SHUT UP!” 

I looked around trying to figure out which chick had lent Rob her engagement ring so he could pull this prank on me. “Okay – give it back,” I said. “Very funny.”

Rob had a look of complete horror on his face. One, because when I punched him he sort of bobbled the ring. Keep in mind we were sitting on catamaran rope net traveling at a fast pace over ocean waters. (Luckily he didn’t actually drop it.) And two, he was suddenly not sure of my answer.

“No REALLY,” he said somewhat panicked. “Will you REALLY marry me?”

Okay… now you can refer to the traditional ending as described above.

A few days later, we were married near the ocean at our resort. The couples who had been on that cruise were our guests and witnesses. Our “reception” was a nice lunch followed by snorkeling.

And they lived happily….ever….after.

Happy Anniversary Babe!


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39 comments:

Lindsay said...

I'm a sucker for a romantic story and this made my laugh hysterically, and then I did the "aawwwww" thing at the end. Loved it!

Your blog just cracks me up and I love reading it, so I left you a blog award over on my little blog. The post to it is here:
http://lindsanity.blogspot.com/2009/10/i-didnt-even-prepare-speech.html

Linds

Sarah said...

that's the greatest proposal story i've ever heard of. loved it!

pk said...

What a great proposal story! Loved it. :-) Visiting from SITS today. Hope you have a great day...
pk @ Room Remix

Theta Mom said...

I am such a romantic so I love stories like that! BTW, thanks so much for stopping by my blog today. :)

Hunter said...

Very nice post, Charlene. I really enjoyed that story.

Oh, and I like what you've done with the place. It's looking mighty fancy over here.

Chocolate Lover said...

This is a beautiful and original story! I had a similar reaction when my fiance proposed. I thought it was a joke and responded with "yeah right!" Thx for stopping by my blog! Glad you did!

Charlene said...

Thanks for the award and the nice comments. Y'all ROCK!

Jenno said...

This sounds very much like the way in which Marco will probably eventually propose to me: knowing full well that I will actually marry him, even though we are not in need of the additional paperwork to support our union. :)

By the way, I gave you an award about a week ago; the post can be found here: http://lajenno.blogspot.com/2009/10/requisites-for-acceptance.html

:)

Charlene said...

Oh cool - I always miss my own name in these things. I'll be over the check it out! :-) THANKS!!!

missykimmy said...

I just read your "About Me" section and I laughed so hard. :D Speaking in third person happens to the best of us from time to time, don't worry!

I'm so sorry I forgot to follow after I posted my last comment! I just realised that I couldn't see any of your updates on my Dashboard and I thought it was weird. Okay on to the actual comment now:

That was the best post I've read since I first came on blogger! (that's a weird sentence, but you see what I mean, right?) You're now married? Congratulations! And you're pregnant too? Congratulations! I've never been so happy for someone I've never actually met before, but it feels like now I know you a little bit. Thank you for sharing such a happy and romantic moment of your life. It gives me hope, somehow. (: I'm really happy for you and wish you all the very best with Rob and your baby. (:

Visit my blog again soon, I've updated. (:

missykimmy.blogspot.com

Charlene said...

Thanks - that sure is a GREAT compliment!

Actually, my daughter will be 10 on Thanksgiving Day. But I just went back and edited the post to include the year since you bring up a very good point!

Twincerely,Olga said...

HI! Stopping over from SITS! Great blog!You have a great sense of humor too!

Twincerely,Olga said...

wow! What a sweet proposal!!

Innocent Owner Of Mad Cats said...

What a great story. Lets hear it for steady hands on Robs part though, otherwise I think the ending would of been about you and Rob snorkeling a lot. :)

Tonya said...

Yep...I did the "awwww" thing at then end of that story too! Great one.
Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!
www.tuesdaysattonyas.blogspot.com

Name: Holly Bowne said...

That was an awesome story! I hope you all do live happily ever after.

Clueless_Mama said...

What a sweet story! St. Maarten is such a beautiful place too! I love it. Following from MBC.

Ree said...

Awww...very sweet! Love your blog! :)

Proper Prim said...

Your story cracked me right up... I would have done the same thing, but I probably would have tossed the ring for him...LOL... I have been with my BF for 15 years...I live in Canada and he lives in the U.S. and that suits us just fine...LOL... I always tell people I am the weekend special... I must say though I am a sap when it comes to a romantic story... loved yours... he sounds like a keeper.

Thanks for stopping by my blog earlier... I am your newest fan... Love you way of thinking...
Hugs... Deb

gringationcancun said...

Hahaha poor guy! Well it's his fault for not "prep"ing you for it! I mean, all that time as a couple and he always made you think it wasn't gonna happen.

Hilarious story. Glad he didn't drop the ring :)

Stopping by from SITS

JDaniel4's Mom said...

I am so glad you didn't lose th ring!

Melissa @ Cellulite Investigation said...

Oh, my dream wedding! I'm all for getting married, it's the wedding part the scares the bejeezes out of me. All that planning and stress? No thanks!

Katie said...

Now THAT'S a proposal story!! :)

Blissful Babe said...

Aaaawwww! That is so awesome. That should be sent to Reader's Digest. *snicker snort*

LisaDay said...

Fantastic.

Happy SITS day.

LisaDay

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

That. Is. PRICELESS! He's definitely a keeper! ;)

Caitlin said...

So funny and sweet! What a great story!

Date Girl said...

Oh man, I'm glad he didn't drop the ring! I love your reaction. When my fiance proposed I just kept saying are you serious? Because he likes to pull pranks on me too.

Happy Sits day!

Alianna said...

Great story! I would have loved to see the look of horror on his face - priceless!

Megan said...

Poor guy! Haha! Glad you did finally realized he was serious...and he didn't drop the ring into the water!

foxy said...

I'm so glad you linked to this... I hadn't read this story before. How sweet!

Sonya said...

How incredibly sweet! I love this story! My husband never actually proposed. He just kind of assumed since we went ring shopping together. I still give him crap about that!

LivingInspired said...

CLASSIC! What a cute story. And truth be told, after our 200+ person wedding, I would've gladly traded it in for your reception!

Double Wide Mom said...

Awww...what a great memory! Here (and smiling) from SITS

Rachel said...

So funny and so sweet!

Caity said...

Oh what a lovely story! How sweet!! :)

The Guy's Perspective said...

I love Happily Ever After tales. Very sweet. OK, that's my nice guy side rearing it's "blank" head.

TC said...

I can see myself doing the hysterical laughter deal...GREAT story!!

OneMommy said...

THAT is an original story! What a way to start - Happy anniversary!

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